Happy Monday to all the men of ManPlay out there! I can see from my Inbox that a lot of you had a very eventful St. Patrick’s Day weekend, you naughty men, you! From tales of hitting up keg parties with some hot boys who were on Spring Break to a letter about how he went from getting a green beer spilled on him by a random hottie to making him pancakes the next morning, it sounds like a good time was had by all! If you haven’t gotten a chance to drop us a line, get to it! We want to hear all about your adventures with the men you meet off the ManPlay gay personals!

On a less happy note, today I want to talk about some of the main reasons why we get dumped. While these are obviously not going to be true for every situation, based on the hundreds of letters I’ve read (and my own extensive experience both as getting dumped and with dumping someone else!) here are some of the basic reasons why your former lover decides it’s time to call it quits. Read on and see if you recognize any of these in your own dating past!

1. He’s secretive!

Few things can kill the trust in a budding relationship like this gem. Whether he’s a secret stoner or he’s keeping you a secret from his friends and family, there are few things worse than discovering your man has been hiding something from you. It’s hard to get to know someone truly and let them into your life if the other person is not willing to do the same.

2. Long distance killed it!

While a lot of new relationships decide to try and work through long distance barriers that are created, this is not going to work in many (most?) circumstances. Likely one or the other of you will either get tired of the long distance phone calls or find someone else who is a little closer to home and want to move on. A difficult situation for all, for sure, but one of the more understandable reasons to get dumped, no?

3. Money matters – whether you like it or not.

It’s a sad fact of reality that, especially in a harsh economic climate like the one we are still in, financial issues are going to place a big strain on relationships. One person may have significantly more money than the other which can cause problems when one is worried all the time about money and the other is ready to go out and spend it. Even if one person has enough to take care of the other financially, that can lead to feelings of resentment and irrational irritation on the part of one or both of the men involved.

4. Emotion overload.

When you’re starting out with someone, he might seem terrific and full of life and energy but as you get to know him more you see he has some emotional issues that you weren’t aware of before. Whether he is depressed or has another mental disorder or you just find him overly emotional, this often leads to feelings of extreme irritation when you find your personalities just don’t gel well together. This can be particularly difficult for both men involved because the one doing the dumping often feels bad for the other that he has to deal with an upsetting emotional situation, and the one who gets dumped will likely not feel better that his emotional problems have essentially ruined a budding romance. While there’s no easy solution to this problem, the person going through a tough time emotionally needs time to work the issues out for himself before he hitches his wagon to someone else in a serious way.

5. Jealous, much?!

I think we’ve probably all been in relationships where we’ve been jealous of something that the man we’re seeing is doing. How we act on that feeling, though, makes all the difference. No one wants to be the recipient of twenty text messages during the course of an hour asking for your whereabouts when he knows full well you are out with your friends AND he was welcome to come etc. The green-eyed monster comes out for a lot of people when starting out in a new relationship and are still building trust. It’s the most important time to establish if you do in fact trust the person you are seeing and can get a handle on your jealousy or if you need to reconsider if you can relax and enjoy being in the relationship.

These are five of the top reasons based on my experiences and from what you’ve all told me. What do you think? Agree with them or not? What reasons have you had for dumping someone or have been given when getting dumped? Write and let me know!

John xo

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