Yes, this is the second blog that we’ve had that has been inspired by a recent Taylor Swift single… In this case it’s her new single, I Knew You Were Trouble., where Taylor talks about going out with a bad boy that she knew from the beginning wasn’t good for her. It’s a surprisingly up-tempo dub-step track from the young star who is usually more at home with a country-twinged ballad. But how many times have we all decided it was a good idea to date a bad boy that is probably wrong for us, even though we should know better? If you’re anything like me, there has certainly been a few situations where this has been the case…

So, gay men of ManPlay, what is it that makes us chase the bad boys? In my case, I’ve often been pursued by them, which kind of gave me a thrill even though I knew it wasn’t a great idea. As much as I like to have fun and be a bit wild, I am far from a bad boy, so it’s kind of intriguing when a bad boy is attracted to you and is actively pursuing you. I find it quite the turn-on, at least. There’s something very seductive about a man that you know might not have the best of intentions, but he sure is sexy, regardless! What is it about men like this that is so appealing? Is it that we subconsciously know that it will just be for a brief period and will be fun for awhile but won’t be anything too serious? Sometimes it’s fun going into a bit of a fling knowing that you are doing something that you wouldn’t ordinarily be doing, but knowing that it will just be for a brief period of time and then you can get back to going out with the types of boys that are reliable and trustworthy. If you look at it in this way, then you aren’t selling yourself short but you are looking for trouble if you are thinking that you are going to be starting a long-term relationship with someone like this, then you are probably in for some heartache. Men like this are good for a bit but then when you find that you really need them for something, that is when they are least likely to be around. It’s part of their mystique and appeal, sure, but not in the long run.

Is it a bad idea to go out with someone that from the get-go you think is wrong for you? Some might say yes, but as long as you have it in your head that this is just for a bit of fun for a bit of time, you shouldn’t get your emotions in too much trouble. Think of the bad boys of cinema: They are indescribably sexy but usually have hearts of gold underneath. Unfortunately that is likely a romanticized version of a bad boy that you would be more likely to encounter in real life. That person is probably not as kind-hearted beneath the bulging biceps as we might like, but as long as we are aware of the realistic nature of the theoretical relationship, then there should be no problem having a bad boy in your life for a little bit – just don’t make it into a habit that lasts a lifetime!

What do you all think of this? Have you ever been out with someone that you thought was trouble from the get-go and then was pleasantly surprised at how different he was than you were expecting? What about the opposite – did you ever go out with someone thinking he would be totally different beneath the rough exterior only to have him be a true bad boy through and through? Let us know in the comments and be sure to discuss with the other hotties in the message boards of ManPlay!

John xo

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