Afternoon ManPlay members! The question posed above is something that people have been asking for decades now. It seems like people tend to fall in one of two camps when it comes to this issue. Tons of daters won’t even consider a first date that is anything other than coffee. They see the perks of it in the fact that you can get in and get out quickly if necessary. A coffee is clearly not much of a commitment; if things are going south fast there is an easy way to get out of there. Simply finish up your overpriced latte and thank your date for a nice time and then head for the hills. It’s also a fairly cheap option for those looking to save a few dollars (and who isn’t these days?) even if the coffee manages to come to over $6. Skipping treats in the coffee shop is good for the waistline and wallet and is bound to keep you moving out the door if so desired. No need to spend some excess time chowing down on a massive muffin, right?

Now all of these reasons are also cited as ways that a coffee date suggestion can seem insulting to the other person involved. Depending on how you take the offer it can seem like ‘Ok, I’m semi-interested in meeting you but don’t have massive hopes for this so can we just meet at a coffee shop right by my work right after I finish work? If things are bad I can still make it home in time to salvage my evening’. While that is most likely not the intent of the individual asking someone on a coffee date, it can come off as a cheap escape route for someone without a lot of faith in the match working out. Is that a slap in the face or just realistic? Let’s face it: Most dates you go on are not going to be the best ones you’ve ever had. But with a site like ManPlay with a seemingly endless supply of hot gay men to go out with, can’t you weed out the ones you don’t think you’ll really be interested in fairly easily and before you head out and meet in person? It’s not like it’s a complete blind date where you have no idea what the person is like, looks like or what they do for a living. With gay chat features at your fingertips you can quickly get to know someone well enough to know if you would likely be able to get along for more than a thirty minute coffee date. While all first dates are somewhat like job interviews, when it’s just a quick coffee that can seem like it’s only marginally longer than the length you would meet someone while speed dating.

What do you guys think? Do you love or loathe a coffee date? Do you find it insulting or is that being hypersensitive? I can’t wait to hear what you all think so be sure and comment or drop me an email.

Terrence

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