Hello gorgeous gay boys of ManPlay! I was just perusing my Inbox and I got a couple of questions from users of the site that I get asked about all the time. When using a site like ManPlay and you start chatting to someone who you like, people can get confused about how often to contact each other.

It’s certainly a common mistake to become instantly infatuated with someone and then blow up their Inbox with message after message and requests for chats. While your heart might be in the right place, this almost certainly comes off as creepy and I think we can all agree that’s not what anyone is aiming for in that situation. I am not a fan of game-playing, however, because not only are you not sending out an authentic version of yourself but you’re also acting in a way that is uncomfortable and unnatural for you, which is hardly the foundation of any successful relationship. Some men will go by a ‘wait however-many days before contacting’ rule but I hardly see the point. It doesn’t give off the impression that you are really that eager to see the other person and that’s not a good M.O. at the start of any relationship. I’ve always felt a once-a-day approach is best, unless you can see that the other person is online or you have started chatting online or texting. Once these get involved, it’s a whole other ballgame.

If you’ve gotten to the stage where you are routinely texting each other, there can be another set of complicated scenarios that emerge. First and foremost is the tone that you strike. I advise maintaining the format you used in the gay chat rooms at the start. If you are comfortable using slang and abbreviations, keep it up! Otherwise it’s weird to all of the sudden start using them or stop using them. You don’t want the person you’re chatting with to feel like they were talking to someone different before.

Go with what feels natural. If you find yourself feeling like you shouldn’t be hitting Send at any time, take some time out and then reconsider it. You don’t want to end up scaring him off before things get too hot and heavy! What do you guys think? Do you agree with my tips? What have you found from members on ManPlay? Be sure and let me know in the comments!

John xo

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