Everyone knows the second Thanksgiving wraps up, people start thinking of another kind of wrapping. The second Black Friday rolls around it means it’s time to stop thinking of Thanksgiving turkey and start thinking of gift-giving. It seems with each passing year, regardless of the financial climate of the country, there’s more urgency placed on not only finding a suitable gift for everyone on your list, but the perfect gift, one that encapsulates how you feel about that person in a considerate and carefully planned way. What about the men you meet off of ManPlay? Do you decide to exchange gifts? Doing so or not can be as complicated as deciding whether or not to have ‘the talk’ about the standing of your relationship.

Giving gifts can turn out to hurt you

Exchanging gifts certainly takes things to the next level. I remember a couple of times over the years where I thought I was seeing someone who could turn out to be my gay Romeo so I wanted to casually get him a present around the holidays. Not only was there not a present in return either time (which I was perfectly fine with) but the act of giving the gift itself turned into an apparent issue for both recipients. In both cases they read way more into the gift than was necessary and made it seem like I was expecting so much in return for the gifts that it negated any of the goodwill that I felt when selecting them.

So how do you know what to do?

It depends on how serious you are about the person and what message you want your gift to convey to the recipient. If it’s a casual hookup with someone, but you feel like being a nice Santa, feel free to get a sexy little gift that you can both use together, if you catch my drift. While a gift like this is obviously practical and one that is fun for both of you, it’s likely not going to be very expensive or has much meaning behind it beyond the obvious. If you have been seeing someone that you quite enjoy and think it could turn into a relationship with some staying power, it might be a good idea to broach the subject of gifts at some point and see how he reacts. Again, it doesn’t have to be a big gift that is expensive or difficult to obtain to show that you care about him. The best type of gifts are the ones that are something that you remember your man saying he wanted or was interested in, because it shows you pay attention and made a note to come back to later.

So what are you thinking, gay men of ManPlay? Be sure to let me know in the comments what you think the rules of gift-giving are!

Terrence

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