There are millions of men on ManPlay and it seems like pretty much every gay guy out there has a profile somewhere and is actively looking to meet up with others. What happens when you start to see someone and you still have a profile then? Do you delete it or is that presumptuous about your relationship? Should you discuss it with the new man you’ve been seeing? There is no right answer to these questions but there are some ways of smartly handling the situation. When you see that he still has his profile up there, are you jealous of the attention he might be getting from others? Do you think that he should delete it out of respect for you and the relationship that you’ve built together or is it something you wouldn’t even mention?

I’ve had people write to me about this topic and have discussed it with friends as well. If he is still actively updating his profile he isn’t doing it to hurt you. After all, he is still seeing you but he just might have a different definition of your relationship than you do. This is something you should hopefully feel comfortable discussing with him in a calm and non-threatening manner. If you don’t feel like you can discuss your feelings with him without losing your cool, that might be a sign that there really is no reason for him to not be dating his profile. You likely aren’t at a place at that point where you are really in a serious relationship so he should be able to keep his profile going without being questioned about it frequently from you – or anyone else he might be dating. The definition of ‘dating’ can be different for every gay man dating as people have different expectations and ideas about what dating should and should not entail. Just as each person is different in some capacity, people will have different things that they are looking for and expecting out of the people that they go on dates with. There’s no reason why both of you can’t keep your profiles up and not be threatened by it. If you are truly confident in your relationship then you should be able to believe that he (and you) can resist the temptation of seeing other hot guys online. As well, a site like ManPlay that has millions of members is a great place to meet people in the chat rooms or by sending messages to each other. Just because you are seeing someone doesn’t mean that you can’t have other friends and online is a great place to meet people, so there’s no reason to get rid of your profile or try and make the man you’re dating do so. If you are really jealous that he has his profile up even though he’s dating you, those are more like feelings of insecurity that you should deal with yourself and not  try to impose on him instead. I suggest having an honest conversation about how you’re feeling if you are really upset about it and take it from there.

What do you think about this topic, men of ManPlay? Have you ever been in a situation where you were dating someone and he still had his profile up and it upset you? Or have you experienced the opposite? Let us know in the comments and have a fantastic weekend!

Terrence

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