Afternoon to all the gay hotties that are members of ManPlay! We’re so happy you take the time out of searching for gay men online to come on the blog and see what tips we have in store for you all! Today I want to talk about chemistry and how to tell if you have it just from communicating online or not. While you may be reading and thinking that you already know, don’t be so sure. It can be very difficult to gauge chemistry and differs from individual to individual.
Think about a scenario that people often mention to us has happened to them or someone they know. You find someone you think you quite like online, start talking to them online and think everything is going great and that you can’t wait to meet in person. When you finally get around to meeting online, you can just tell right away that something is different. You no longer feel the chemistry that you had online. It’s almost as though you were talking to a completely different hottie online than the one that’s sitting in front of you. What happened? When the conversation flowed so easily online but doesn’t seem to in person. In most of these cases it’s that one of you felt a lot more comfortable in front of his computer screen and so you were more able to open up and really be yourself and communicate in a way that the other responded to. Then when you finally get together, one of you wasn’t as comfortable as when you had been online and things weren’t as smooth. In some cases this can be overlooked and you can work through it until you both feel safe and comfortable, but some people may not be willing to put forth that effort or get discouraged and turned off. As always, your emotional safety and physical safety is paramount!
What about then when you are first starting to talk to someone online. Can you really determine chemistry when you are online or are there just different types of chemistry? The best way to really determine chemistry is to meet in person but how fast do you go about doing that? You want to chat first before meeting up with someone and make sure you like them enough (online) to even want to consider meeting them (offline). But if you spend tons and tons of time chatting before you meet up and then find that the chemistry isn’t there, isn’t it better to meet before too long so you can find out about the chemistry right away? The amount of time you’re going to want to talk to someone before meeting up if likely going to differ for every person so just make sure you find a comfortable time for you before deciding to meet up.
What do you all think of this? How do you find the differences in chemistry between being online and being in person? Do you not even consider it to be a huge difference? Let us know your experiences and be sure to discuss with others in the message rooms of ManPlay – and see what your chemistry is like there!