Afternoon to all the hot gays of ManPlay out there! Hopefully you’re continuing to soak up the sun and are having some fun with a man or two that you’ve met off of the site. I started thinking today about giving second chances after I got an email from a user of the site who was wondering what I would suggest in a situation. Basically he had been seeing a man, albeit casually, for a few weeks. They had slept together and spent several wonderful nights together. The person who wrote in said he was really starting to think it could lead somewhere and was excited about the possibility.

Can you sense what’s coming next yet?

They made plans to get together a couple of days after seeing each other the last time and then… nothing. He didn’t hear anything else from him again. All of a sudden they went from texting each other dozens of times throughout the day to complete silence. He didn’t know what was going on but, thankfully, realized that on a site like ManPlay there are so many sexy gay men on at any given moment that there was ample opportunity to find someone else great to be with. So that’s just what he did! Since then he has seen a few people very casually but hasn’t found anyone that he would be interested in seeing more seriously. Then two nights ago he was out at a bar catching up with an old friend when all of a sudden he ran into the man who he had been seeing – and he was working there! The man came and sat down and the conversation was slightly awkward but nothing too bad. They talked for a few minutes but not about anything serious and no one mentioned the way things had dropped off. Then on his way home that night he gets a text from the man he had been seeing which apologized for not getting in contact and explained that he felt like things were getting serious and he was scared about how that felt since he had been in a relationship for a long time and didn’t know how he felt about the way he was feeling so he ran away. He said that he hoped he hadn’t ruined the potential for something that happened between them and asked for a second chance. The man who was writing me asked if I thought he should give him a second chance or if there was no way he should even go near there.

I did my best to explain to him that there are no easy answers when it comes to giving someone a second chance. On the one hand, you may feel like you would then think he might do it again but on the other hand, it’s understandable how he was feeling, isn’t it? People make mistakes no matter who they are and sometimes you have to give someone the benefit of the doubt and trust them and take them at their word that they will try not to push you away again. With any relationship though, you can only hope that the person you are seeing is trustworthy and dependable, but that’s as much as you can really count on. No one is perfect and you have to either trust someone or not. Is it worth it to you to give a second chance to someone? Only you can answer that.

What do you think about that, men of ManPlay? Have you ever given someone a second chance only to be burned by it later? Or have you given someone a second chance and really felt like you made the right decision in doing so? What advice would you have given this ManPlay member? Be sure and comment and let us know your thoughts!

John xo

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