Afternoon ManPlay-ers! It’s been a busy day here at ManPlay HQ and I got a letter today asking me about tips for a successful profile which got me thinking about what I would say are the top tips for a profile that will make people message you and respond to your messages. Here are some of my tips that I’ve seen time and time again work for various members (and for myself!) Seriously, when I first had a profile myself I had no idea what I was doing. Granted, this was several years ago before it seemed like every single person on earth had one and there wasn’t a lot of resources to help me decide what would be worth writing and what wouldn’t. My very first profile was probably about fifty words in total and said pretty much nothing about me and had nothing that would really set my profile apart from any other ones out there. Over the years I’ve gained experience and seen thousands of profiles that work and thousands that don’t so I feel I’ve honed my skills enough to be confident in what I put on my profile and also comfortable giving advice to those looking to improve theirs. With that in mind, here are some of my top tips to make simple alterations to what you already have on your profile that will give you big results.
1. Clear, accurate photos
This seems so simple it’s shocking how many of you don’t follow it. We’ve ALL been on a date where the person you are meeting is clearly five years older and/or fifty pounds heavier than in the pictures on his profile. I get why gay men do this, but it is not effective in the long run. Pictures that look cool but obscure half of your face or a burn on one side of your face are just deceptive up until the point when you meet in the flesh. Don’t be THAT guy.
2. Write the way you want others to write to you
If you are fine with someone telling you ‘Ur hot. Wanna cam? lol’ then there’s no reason why your profile shouldn’t be like that too. If proper grammar and spelling are dealbreakers for you, you should write that way as well to set the bar. There’s no problem with mentioning in your profile if you’re a stickler for grammar as well.
3. Be specific
So many profiles are pretty much interchangeable. No one is going to be interested to know that your favorite hobbies include watching movies and going out to restaurants. Those are activities that pretty much every person on the planet enjoys doing, so mention specifics. That way if someone else is interested in the same things you are more likely to hear from them and have a match.
4. Don’t go into much detail about your past
While it might be tempting to go into a diatribe about the last relationship you were in and how long it lasted etc. avoid the temptation. These are details that are likely to be discussed on a third date, if not later. You might scare off potential suitors if they feel you are dragging around too much baggage.
5. Don’t be shy!
Loads of people think once the profile they’ve worked so hard to create is online that all they need to do is sit back and wait for men to come to them. While this might work for some, to increase your chances online you should search around and contact members that you are interested in. Not only is confidence sexy, but there’s no reason not to. Through the anonymity of the Internet, a rejection is far less painful than one delivered in person. When you consider what the worst that can happen as well is – that he doesn’t get back to you outright or gives you a rejection – there is very little to be afraid of when it comes to potential rejection. Also, it’s unlikely that you’ve invested that much time and energy into your interest in him by the point you message him so it won’t have the same sting as if you’ve been dating him for a year and then you are rejected by him. As it seems with so many things in life, you increase your chances for success the more options you create for yourself.
While these are just a few of the tips that could be given, gay men who follow these rules are pretty much guaranteed to have better success online. I’ve seen it time and time again. Try them out and let me know how they work on the gay personals of ManPlay! I predict you’ll have a lot more success than before but let me know if they don’t help you out as well. We love hearing from you all, no matter what you have to say.