Afternoon to the hot boys out there! I hope you’ve all had a good week and are getting pumped up for the weekend. Hopefully you’ve been hitting the gay chat rooms of ManPlay and are finding some exciting things to do with some sexy gentlemen this weekend. As spring approaches, I definitely find I’ve got more of a spring in my step and have arranged for a couple dates this weekend myself. Fingers crossed they go well!
As I was thinking about what it’s like going on a first date, I started thinking about some of the ways that you can easily blow the first date and ensure early on that there won’t be a second one. Here are some of my tips of things NOT to do on your first date so that hopefully you’ll reach a second one. First of all, be on time! This can seem obvious but few things are more off-putting than sitting around a bar or restaurant waiting for someone to show up when you’re nervous about the first date already. Your thoughts can race and you instantly go from being ready for your date to show up to wondering if he came in and then saw you and left or… You can spiral pretty fast when waiting for a first date to show up so when he finally does you’ve become agitated and restless and in no mood to start off a budding relationship.
Be sure to be well-groomed and ready for action! By that I just mean that you should be dressed in a manner that is appropriate for almost any occasion that could arise during the course of the night. Base the outfit around where you are meeting but make it either dressy enough or casual enough to also feel comfortable in a variety of locations should you go somewhere else after. I usually go for a business casual look, so you’re comfortable but you are looking your best at the same time. Don’t forget that first impressions only happen once for a reason!
Be a smooth conversationalist! Don’t let there be any awkward lulls in the conversation by being prepared with topics that are interesting but not overly controversial. Let him know just enough about you that he will want to know more but you certainly don’t have to feel the need to give him your whole life story. Just as you wouldn’t expect him to give you every detail of his life on a first date, just keep the conversation light and fun.
Don’t be a downer! This should be obvious but even if you aren’t feeling 100% it is wise to put on a brave face and be as fun and spontaneous as you would like to be, even if you aren’t feeling it at that moment. More often than not, if you’re having a good time, you’ll start to perk up and get into the swing of things as the date progresses and you’ll be happy you put in the effort in the beginning.
Finish big! The end of a date is one of the most crucial parts of the evening. You should make a habit of ending with a compliment, letting your date know that you had a good time and you’d like to do it again soon. This leaves things with him feeling good about himself and also getting geared up for a second date.
While I think these are solid tips for every first date, I want to know what yours are! Dating is like anything else: The more you do it, the more comfortable you get with it. So for all the big daters out there: What are your top tips for a smooth first date? Be sure to comment here and discuss in the message boards of ManPlay. Have a great weekend, everyone!