Afternoon to all the hot boys of ManPlay out there! I hope you all had a fantastic Valentine’s Day yesterday. I got a ton of letters from a lot of you today telling me about your evening, but I want to hear more! What did you get up to? Who were you with? Did you meet up with anyone off of ManPlay? I was having a conversation with a friend earlier today and he is not someone I would say is very into Valentine’s Day in general, but he said he had such a nice time last night that he almost feels sad that it’s over and now has such high hopes for future holidays like it. It made me wonder: Is it ever too late to become a romantic?

Some of you might read about this and think this is a perfect example of why you don’t go all-out for Valentine’s Day, because it will raise expectations for future holidays and years. If you end up going big with a day like Valentine’s Day, doesn’t that just raise the bar for the birthdays and every other occasion now? While this might be cynical, it does have a ring of truth to it. It got me thinking about a friend who was waiting to get proposed to for what seemed like ever. When he finally was, it was almost like he was disappointed because he didn’t have that to look forward to anymore. While his friends have teased him mercilessly about this fact, it kind of makes sense. I generally find it’s the things in life that you have little to no expectations for that give you the biggest surprises that end up making the most lasting memories. If you aren’t expecting to have a big Valentine’s Day (or New Year’s Eve or birthday or…) and end up having a great night you are far more likely to be hoping for something similar in the future, which leads to expectations and can often then lead to disappointment.

I suppose this might be why I don’t generally consider myself a big fan of these days that can come with so many expectations. I would much rather have the dream version of a Valentine’s Day night out on February 18th, for example, and have it be totally unexpected and fun and romantic for the right reasons, not because my date felt pressure to do something special for me on that day. What do you all think? Do you agree with me or am I being totally ridiculous? Have you ever been completely surprised by something on a day that isn’t generally considered to be especially romantic? Do you feel disappointed with how your night went yesterday or was it even better than you could have imagined? Be sure and comment or write me directly and tell me all about it and then talk about all your gay dating experiences with other members on ManPlay!

John xo

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